SEEKING THE SPIRITUAL PATH
Serenity Day sponsored by the Triad OA Intergroup
Speaker! Workshops! Fellowship!!
When: Saturday, November 2. 2019
Time: Registration: 12:30pm – 1:00pm
Program: 1:00pm – 4:30pm
Where: Guilford Park Presbyterian Church
2100 Fernwood Dr (corner of Lawndale)
Greensboro, NC 27410
(Weds. Meeting location)
For information or Directions, call Lynne 336-202-4409
The revised Strong Meeting Checklist and OA Group Inventory are now posted online and are available for free download.
Find both online at What’s New (oa.org/whats-new) or at oa.org/documents “Group Secretary Materials.”
Here are the direct links:
Strong Meeting Checklist: https://oa.org/files/pdf/strongmtgchecklist1.pdf
OA Group Inventory: https://oa.org/files/pdf/oagroupinventory.pdf
OA Group Inventory and Strong Meeting Checklist Updated
OA Group Inventory and Strong Meeting Checklist, both available for download on oa.org, have been recently refreshed—see how they can help you check in, both with yourself and your fellow members, at your upcoming meetings. These checklists are intended help foster a focused and supportive group environment to help carry the message to all attendees as we work our program together.
Please share the news of these resources with members, groups, and service bodies.
Please share or reprint this announcement in your group and service body newsletters. Thank you.
Your Trusted Servant
Region 8 Trustee
Please send future correspondance to:
OA Triangle Intergroup
P.O. Box 12525
Durham, NC. 27709
Date: August 17, 2019
Place: St. Philip Neri Church, 292 Munn Rd., Fort Mill, SC
Contact: Maureen 803-493-6870
SOAR 8 Recovery Convention and Business Assembly
April 5-7, 2019
Fort Lauderdale, Florida
Report from Clare, Triangle IG SOAR 8 Rep
Some points I noted from recovery meetings:
12 Steps gave me a life beyond my past
I live by doing the next right thing
I can choose to enjoy what’s in front of me or I can live over and over again in my past
It’s a privilege to be an addict in recovery
I can’t do it alone. I need to keep on cultivating my relationship with HP
First the addict takes a bite; then the bite takes the addict
FEAR = Feel Everything And Recover or False Evidence Appearing Real (vs Forget Everything And Run)
The power of the pause: Pause when agitated or doubtful and ask for the right action
Do things that make the likelihood better that I pause
Do more spiritual work, so I am more likely to pause and less likely to need to make amends
PAUSE = Pray And Use Spiritual Energy
WAIT = Why Am I Talking?
When in doubt, ask someone who has been in recovery longer than me and seems to be content
Reread pages 84-88 in the Big Book
Be God-relying, rather than sponsor-relying
Invite HP in on decision making and into all my life
Doubt is self-imposed; HP does not have that doubt about me
Came to realize that there are foods I cannot eat safely even on birthdays or holidays
I have enough; I do enough; I am enough
Buried feelings are feelings buried alive
Let me be the clay and let God be the sculptor
In God’s time, not mine.
Communicate with HP by the tool of writing. Send a “Dear God” letter and then a reply from HP to me: “You are amazing. Here’s what you need to do today.” Then I “select ALL” and delete the dialog from my computer and it’s as if the letter actually went to HP. A way to learn what my HP is. 100% personal to me. Available 24 hours a day. All I have to do is ask, to connect. I learn to trust my intuition.
Self esteem improves with service
Journal about each word in the Serenity Prayer
To compare is to despair
Nothing changes until I change
Minds are like parachutes. They won’t work unless they are open.
We are all perfect in our imperfection.
Addiction: it looks like the solution when really it’s the problem
Don’t compare my insides to someone else’s outsides
Instead of stuffing my face, face my stuff.
Walking hand in hand every day with the spirit. Holding hands with HP. God opening new opportunities for me.
A program of progressive honesty
I now live in abundance; the good times are awesome.
I can get through the challenges if I put down the food and work the Steps. One day at a time.
Some points from the SOAR 8 business assembly meetings:
Title of the business conference was “Seeing the Sunlight of the Spirit
Working in My Life”
OA is a fellowship in which we find and share the power of love
the value of attentive listening
the most important thing is our own abstinence
extending the heart of OA to others, to those who give service, and especially to ourselves
we want more members involved in their local Intergroup
we want Intergroup to support stronger local meetings
we want increased attraction and retention of newcomers
we want more personal recovery and leaders who attract others thru that
we want to carry the message for the growth of OA
love, strength and compassion: learning to love myself is an important part of my action plan
IGOR (Intergroup Outreach) will fund committee chairs to come to the April and October assemblies. Also has a “Carry the Message Fund” to bring someone from outside the area to speak to your Intergroup
“We’re all here because we’re not all there”
Unity With Diversity and 12th Step Within committees combined under the umbrella of the 12th Step Within committee: relapse, membership retention, resources
anyone can request to be put on the list as someone with experience, strength, and hope to share about Unity With Diversity topics: diversity of languages; LGBT; pregnancy, traveling, people of color, etc. And anyone can sign up to be connected with someone who has ESH in these areas.
up to us to educate our area about resources available via oaregion8.org website. Neill has been speaking at Triangle OA meetings and is available to speak to any of our local meetings about this
Workshops: put on the workshop you need to hear; while planning for it, ask people in your meetings what topics they would like addressed; make phone calls to inspire people to attend; call it a “celebration”, rather than a worksop; celebrate the five OA “holidays: 3rd weekend Jan (OA birthday), 3rd weekend Feb (Unity Day), 3rd weekend Aug, 3rd weekend Nov (IDEA Day), and December 12th (12th Step Within).
suggestion that Intergroup order OA books and literature in bulk for all the groups in the area and thus save the local groups S & H; this would need someone from IG to coordinate
suggestion to hold monthly workshops on the 12 Steps to inspire people to attend meetings and do service
suggestion that each IG commit to 4 workshops a year plus one weekend retreat
Sponsors need to be reminded to inspire their sponsees to do service and become sponsors themselves
Service is your recovery—we want to spread that message
Say to your sponsee, “I’d love to meet you at or drive with you to IG”
hold workshops directly after IG meeting
break the big job of hosting a workshop into small tasks. People are willing to do one small, time-limited thing like making a flyer or bringing the ice.
one person shared about the success of having an OA booth at her local PRIDE parade
use technology to enable IG reps from far-flung groups participate in IG meetings
we need to support those who have volunteered for service positions and who are finding it challenging to accomplish what they have said they would. We can talk with them about short term and long term goals and help them become better versions of themselves.
2020 WSO Business Conference is in Orlando. This will be the 60th anniversary of the founding of OA
SOAR8 RECOVERY CONVENTION AND BUSINESS ASSEMBLY
RIVER CITY RECOVERY, MEMPHIS,TN
OCTOBER 11-13, 2019
Holiday Inn Memphis Airport
2240 Democrat Road Memphis, TN 38132 901.332.1130
The Big Book Comes Alive for OA
A long term recovered compulsive eater from Canada will be presenting this multiple session program
Alternate Programming Includes:
Newcomers, Relapse & Recovery, and Higher Power
FRIDAY, OCTOBER 11
12-7 pm Registration in Hotel Lobby 4:00 pm Recovery convention begins 7:00 pm Business Assembly convenes 8:00 pm Welcome and Presentation
SATURDAY, OCTOBER 12
7 am-noon Registration in Hotel Lobby 8:30 am Business Assembly reconvenes 9:00 am Recovery Convention continues 12:00 pm Luncheon and speaker
2:00 pm Business Assembly reconvenes 2:00 pm Recovery Convention continues 6:00 pm Banquet and speaker
7:30 pm Entertainment –
Recovery Repertory Theatre
SUNDAY, OCTOBER 13
9:00 am Recovery Convention continues 10:00 am Closing speaker
No one will be turned away for lack of funds. If you cannot afford registration, please consider a donation or giving service for two hours.
For more information
www.oaregion8.com or www.oamemphis.com/soar8
OA World Service Business Conference 2019 Report
(submitted by Cory A, *** indicates my opinion only of the most important changes for our fellowship) There were 188 eligible voters
Treasurer Report: $350,000 profit, mostly from sale of new literature and the one-time funding call; Website redesign now taking bids, budget $50,000. Large expense (storm damage to roof) $150,000 but most covered by insurance. Postage expensive, fueling movement to get everything online. Shipping internationally must be UPS so it can be tracked
Presentation of Proposed Restructuring of OA’s Board of Trustees: Go from 17 to 12 Trustees over next 5 years and make them general service positions instead of associated with specific regions. Saves money and streamlines decision-making.
***Proposed Literature (all required 2/3 vote to receive Conference seal of approval)
A-a: Body Image, Relationships, and Sexuality: Personal Journeys to Recovery in Overeaters Anonymous: ADOPTED (with near unanimity)
New Elected Region Trustees: R2 Hanna S; R5 Barbara K; R6 Beth B; R8 Andi S: R9 Vassiliki T. (Only region w/ 2 candidates); R10 Letitia M; GST Tina. One position had no candidate, so it was left unfilled in service of proposed restructuring.
A-b: Dignity of Choice/Plan of Eating: FAILED (by 2 votes); Main objection: Food plans had not been vetted by nutrition specialist since 2009; carried over from past versions. Also, no apparent forethought about potential legal issues; Standing vote (had to be done twice) Yes 119; No 64. This was a 2⁄3 vote. A-c: Welcome back and Members in Relapse; ADOPTED
New Business Motions and Bylaws adopted by Consent Agenda (before conference and therefore not discussed on floor) E, H, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10
New Business Motions:
NBM A Defeated; Consider ease of translation when developing written materials.
NBM B Adopted; Move to amend WSBC Policy 2008a
***NBM C Adopted; Definition of abstinence (refined) and recovery (added); proposed then slightly amended from what you voted on after going to committee.
1) Abstinence: The act of refraining from compulsive eating and compulsive food behaviors while working towards or maintaining a healthy body weight.
2) Recovery: Removal of the need to engage in compulsive eating behaviors. Spiritual, emotional, and physical recovery is achieved through working and living the overeaters anonymous twelve step program.
NBM D Adopted; Groups known as hybrid meetings may register only once and may be included on the OA.org meeting list under the appropriate meeting categories. Two amendments were attempted, one defeated, one deemed out of order.
NBM F Adopted; Apply for and, if approved, accept non-profit status from Google for Custom Search feature at no cost. Paid version currently on OA.org website dramatically improved ease of search NBM I Defeated; WSBC 2019 directs BOT to make all BOT and BOT committee meetings virtual, except for the WSBC itself. (to save money)
NBM J Adopted; Merge Virtual Services Conference Committee into the new Virtual Region 11
***NBM K (merged with M, which was withdrawn) Adopted; Statement on Public and Social Media: Members of OA are responsible for maintaining their anonymity and respecting the anonymity of other OA members. When attending an OA meeting, whether face-to-face or virtual, members are encouraged to seek appropriate means to protect their own anonymity and that of fellow members. All registered virtual meetings shall inform members that their anonymity is not fully protected when attending a virtual meeting. (See “Protecting Anonymity in a Digital World” online; final version will add URL link)
NBM O Defeated; Add last 2 paragraphs of Twelve Step and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous as a choice for the closing. Though lovely, it can be adopted by group conscience.
NBM P Postponed indefinitely; BOT consider alternatives to make newcomers’ packet info available online.
Proposed Bylaws Changes
1 Referred to committee; Proposal on status and support of language service boards deemed not ready for prime time
2 Withdrawn by Maker;
3 Defeated; To add to the bylaw Subpart B, Article IX Board of Trustees, Section 4-Qualifications by striking, inserting and re-lettering the subsequent. “If the trustee applicant has served as a delegate to only on World Service Business Conference at the time of application, must serve as a delegate to the WSBC at which they stand for election as trustee”
4 Defeated; Virtual IGs may also participate in the activities (including voting) of another region with that region’s permission.
11 Withdrawn by maker
12 Adopted Move to amend OA, Inc. Bylaws, Subpart B, Article XI – Conference Committees; (what to do about non-functional committees and chairs, and who can do it); Inserts a new Section 5, renumbers the subsequent sections.
13 Defeated; insert importance of the 12 Concepts to all service bodies, not just WSBC.
OA World Service Business Conference passed a motion To define both abstinence and recovery for the benefit of the still-suffering compulsiveeater.
Abstinence:The act of refraining fromcompulsive eating and compulsive food behaviors while working towards or maintaining a healthy bodyweight.
Recovery:Removal of the need to engage in compulsive eating behaviors. Spiritual, emotional, and physical recovery is achieved through working and living the Overeaters Anonymous Twelve Step program.
Men of OA – You’re not alone!
Are you the only man in your meeting? Do you have trouble freely sharing in meetings of mostly women? The World Service Survey done in 2010 revealed that only about 13% of our fellowship consists of men! If you want to connect with other men in OA, there are many meetings, by phone and in-person, with a Special Focus for Men, as well as several other ways you can connect with men in the program.
★ Are you new to OA? Visit http://OA.org to learn more about this program of recovery and get started today.
There are over 40 face-to-face meetings in several countries around the world with a Special Focus for Men. To view the most updated list of all meetings with a Special Focus for Men, visit http://OAMen.org/meetings.
Here are all the phone meetings around the world, with a Special Focus for Men. All times are listed in EST.
Sunday 8:30 AM
563-999-2090 Pin: 316200#
Sunday 8:30 PM
712-770-4160 Pin: 409092#
Monday 7:00 PM
712-451-1129 Pin: 350025#
Tuesday 7:00 PM
712-775-7031 Pin: 242990669#
Thursday 7:00 PM
605-475-4850 Pin: 197132#
The online meetings listed below require more steps to access. Visit http://oamen.org/online to learn more.
Wednesday 7:00 PM
Contact Name: Ken G Contact Phone: 914-263-6532
Thursday 12:30 PM
Contact Name: Cleve
Contact Phone: +278-3271-4584
Friday 7:30 PM
Contact Name: Jack
Contact Phone: 709-749-8888
★Some of the meeting listings may have been added, removed, or changed since the printing of this flyer, visit http://OAMen.org/meetings to view the most updated list of all meetings with a Special Focus for Men.
OA Men Email Groups
Join an email-based discussion group for Men in OA. Read and send group email with other men in OA.
• To join the Google group, email Tuesday@OAMen.org, including your first name and your last initial.
• To join the Yahoo group, visit http://oa12step4coes.org/loops/male and submit your email address.
OA Men Phone Outreach List
Join the Outreach Phone List to make and receive phone calls with other men in OA, around the world! • To join the phone list, join the Google group above and also include your phone number and time zone.
http://OAMen.org is a website to find resources for men in OA. Got something to add? Click “Contact Us”.
Spread the word!
Share this flyer with everyone in OA! Print or photocopy this and share it at your meetings and intergroups.
If you want to modify this flyer to list face-to-face meetings with a Special Focus for Men in your area, visit http://OAMen.org/publicity for instructions and to download the Microsoft Word version. Please contact us at http://OAMen.org to let us know how you’re spreading the word and how we can help!
Starting Wednesday, May 8th, there will be a new (open) OA meeting from 7 to 8 pm every Wednesday evening in room 220 on the 2nd floor at Structure House in Durham. Address: 3017 Pickett Road, Durham, NC 27705. Spread the word!